Dessert Comes First

An obsession with dessert and other unabashed opinions of a food writer

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My Bin: My Turn

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You and me, babe.

A husband talks about life with his wife, a food writer. By Bindoy Baltazar. A Dessert Comes First Valentine special.

The idea for this article starts last week when Lori has this bright idea to drive to Sucat for dinner… on a weeknight… during rush hour… Sucat’s a lengthy drive from our regular stomping ground and whenever we’ve got to move out of our geographical zone, I think: traffic! She thinks: adventure! People say that Lori’s got the best job ever. I say that it puts me in a position to do what I love to do best: eating. So when she says she has to “work,” I say, game on! I’m being a supportive husband after all.

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Possibly Lori’s motto: Life is a cheesecake.

So off we go, leaving Makati at 7:30pm and before we know it, we’re in Don Limone. Surprisingly, it doesn’t take that long to get here. When Lori enters a restaurant, she takes it in as a whole, observing the dynamics of the place. Not many people know this about Lori but she’s a big believer in engaging service staff. She can talk to anyone, and at restaurants, she talks to the servers and really listens to their suggestions. Even on our first date, it struck me how good a listener she was and I think it’s one of the secrets to why she’s very good at what she does. She also works very hard.

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Lori hard at work at one of her shoots. I ripped this photo off of her Instagram account.

Though I sometimes complain about the distances we have to travel to get to these restaurants, I must admit that the advantages far outweigh anything else. It’s terrific to meet chefs and restaurant owners who are fans of Lori and her blog. They rush to find seats for us, chat with us, eat with us, and it’s flattering to sometimes get extra dishes and more dessert. We always insist on paying though, Lori will have it no other way.

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When we go out, Lori always has her camera with her, a Canon Powershot G12. I’ve gotten used to moving tableware (and myself!) out of the way, and asking before digging in. She shoots quickly and effectively though so I’m not left hanging too long. Don Limone’s pizza and pasta are ho-hum but the one non-Italian dish we order, the Lamb Shank Casablanca has us fighting over the last forkful. Supposedly braised for 10 hours, it comes with a sauce made of Chardonnay and dates. I like the crunch of the pistachios with the Moroccan rice. So exotic and delicious.

When Lori likes a dish, she’s … um, how shall I put this … amusing. She’ll close her eyes and make cooing noises, sometimes clapping her hands like a little girl. It’s when she eats dessert though, and I mean a really good dessert, that she starts to moan softly, sometimes caressing the dessert with her fork. Most of the time, Lori’s cool to share her food with me but if she falls in love with her dish – and especially if it’s dessert – well, I’ve heard “get your own, Bin!” on many occasions. Sharing food with Lori is a lot like our marriage: what’s hers is hers and what’s mine is still hers. But I love that. I think it’s pathetic when women can’t or won’t eat. Lori walks the talk. Food is really her whole life and she eats way more than the average woman, which is why I love her. She can chow down with the best of us men.

When it comes to choosing the next restaurant to eat in, we often refer to the restaurant list that Lori keeps in her phone. I’ll make my choice up front but I won’t push too hard because if Lori has a bad meal, that’s a very dangerous situation. I also think all women are scary when they’re hungry.

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One day I take her to The Cheese Steak Shop and we enjoy it. Before I even take a bite, I mess up my cheese steak with hot sauce, heap on the jalapeños and consider another sauce to add until Lori calls me from the condiment counter to “come sit down and eat.” I like to tinker with my food but Lori likes to leave her food alone and taste it the way it is. Since Lori and I both work in the food industry, we’re always critiquing our food. Sometimes she says that I’m pickier than she is. In reality, I say it’s all her fault. Before I met her, I was fine with anything, and dessert was something that happened occasionally. Now, no meal is complete without dessert and without an opinion expressed.

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Lori loves citrus desserts with real pucker power, like this Coconut Calamansi Cake from The Sweet Edge. I prefer subtler desserts like Gigi Gaerlan’s Fête de Fleur (below).

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A lot of people want Lori’s opinion on food and especially desserts, but since I’m her chief taste tester, I say that my opinion is the most important one, so a little respect over here, people! As for being called “my Bin,” I’ve gotten used to it after all these years, although I was floored the first time one of Lori’s readers came up to me and asked, “Are you ‘my Bin’?”

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This pizza maker in Florence, Italy was especially enchanted with Lori. He hammed it up for us (and her camera).

For two foodies like us, travel is essential. For a creative person like Lori, travel is her fuel. Our roles are clear when in another country: she researches where to eat, I take care of getting us there (and paying for the bill! I am a gentleman after all).

One last thing. When it comes to keeping healthy, Lori inspires me to keep up. She’s more disciplined than I am and way more intense during workouts. I’m a laidback kind of dude when I work out. She’s 150% focused on keeping her “core in” and practicing proper form. I run and think about work, my life, my business , the weather – anything BUT exercise. As far as I’m concerned, a workout is something I do so that I can eat and still stay relatively ok. She works out to be healthy and to look stunning (biased ba?).

Lori is my best friend and favorite eating partner. We have our best conversations when we’re sharing a meal or preparing one. The one thing we both agree on: the food is great when I cook. Real men can cook. Or at least know their way around the kitchen. Lori bakes, I cook… it all works.

There was this meme making the rounds a while back which said “Don’t date a writer because she’ll make you a main character and kill you off in the end.” I say, find yourself a beautiful food writer and marry her.

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Related information on restaurants mentioned in this post:

The Cheese Steak Shop
www.cheesesteakshop.com.ph

Don Limone
www.donlimone.com

Coconut Calamansi Cake by The Sweet Edge
On Facebook: The Sweet Edge

Fête de Fleur by Gigi Gaerlan
www.custaroons.com

53 Responses to “My Bin: My Turn”

  • I must say, this has got to be one of the sweetest blog entries that I’ve come across online. <3

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  • Awwwwwww <3 You guys are so adorable :D This post really made me smile! Really happy for you guys. Happy Valentines Day!

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  • This is so sweet! :) it remnds me how how my husband and I are as a couple :) both of us are fans of your blog, Lori, and we hope someday, we can have a double date and review a restaurant together :) love lots, Ginger

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    Lori Reply:

    Sure, Ginger! Just let me know.
    –lori

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  • “I also think all women are scary when they’re hungry.” all too true :)

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    misao Reply:

    this one caught my eye too! totally agree! :)

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  • Can he be My Bin, too? Staking claim now hahahahaha

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    Lori Reply:

    Get yo’ own man, man!

    –lori

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    MellowMarco Reply:

    I can’t help it! After all, My Bin is the shiznit hahahaha

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  • I LOVE this! Your husband’s a great writer AND clearly a smitten kitten. Lucky girl! :)

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  • I am SO kilig! <3

    This line, most of all: "…she eats way more than the average woman, which is why I love her."

    How I'd love to hear THAT said about me.

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  • Oh my gosh Lori, you are both so lucky to have each other!! Can I just say, what a perfect match? I find it really cute that you are both so passionate about food. But mostly I am gushing over how clear it is that your Bin reveres you. <3<3<3

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    Lori Reply:

    Hi Kath,
    Your comment makes me giddy. It’s different to hear it said from another person. My Bin is more of an action speaks louder than words kinda guy.

    –lori

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    Jenny Reply:

    this post says otherwise Lori! Enjoying this piece on Valentine’s day! and the words here clearly describes his love relationship with you! Happy Valentine’s Day to you and your Bin! ;)

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  • Such a sweet thing to do ;) i see me and my boyfriend in you guys !! We soo love eating except that i dont work out haha ! Ms lori is soo lucky to have a husband like you and in what she does !! :D eatmore and enjoy life :D

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  • Love this! Major pogi points for Bindoy :) Keep the fire burning, guys.

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    Lori Reply:

    Hi Chie,
    After 15 years of marriage, creativity is what keeps the fire burning :p

    –lori

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  • Sooo sweet! I love this part: “Sharing food with Lori is a lot like our marriage: what’s hers is hers and what’s mine is still hers.” which I think is totally true even for my own. ;)

    And this made me laugh out loud: “…but since I’m her chief taste tester, I say that my opinion is the most important one, so a little respect over here, people!”

    It’s nice of you to introduce your husband to us, Lori, and allow us to step in a little closer to who you truly are by what your Bin just shared. Happy Valentine’s to you both! :)

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    Lori Reply:

    Hi Guia,
    After 8 years of mentioning him in my posts, it’s about time I gave him center stage. :)
    –lori

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  • This was fun to read.

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  • Hi Bindoy & Lori ! Bindoy, now I know you are a really sweet husband. Maybe all these sweet desserts have rubbed off on you. Searching for new restaurants and bonding over food seem like an exciting adventure you love to do together. What is amazing is how Lori maintains her svelte figure, despite the frequent dining out …

    I don’t know who is luckier – a husband who cooks well is a real blessing, but a wife who makes great desserts is an angel! Happy Valentine’s!

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    aimee Reply:

    wow so sweet…:)
    I also truly agree with:
    “I also think all women are scary when they’re hungry.”

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    Lori Reply:

    Hi Chit!
    Thanks for commenting. I like that – that “all these sweet desserts have rubbed off” on my Bin.But he’s always been sweet… now he’s even sweeter :p

    –lori

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  • Holy. Lamb. Shank. That looks ridiculous. I want it right now. All of it.

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  • You’re lucky to have each other. Must. find. my. own. Bin. SOON.

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  • love this post. happy valentine’s day to you, ms. lori and your bin. and advance birthday greetings, too. here’s to more food adventures for your family! :)

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    Lori Reply:

    HI Mayums,
    Wow, you remembered my birthday. Yes, will definitely enjoy. Thanks so much.

    –lori

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  • Two terrific writers in the family!

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  • thumbs up! beautiful afternoon with a smile after reading this one:)

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  • Thanks to everyone for the comments! I’ll have Bin reply once he has time. Happy Day of Hearts to everyone!
    –lori

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  • Officially one of my absolute favorite entries ever. There are so many things Bin said about you that Brian could also very easily say about me, Lori. I suppose that’s another reason why we all get along very well.

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    Lori Reply:

    Thanks, Aina! You and I are very lucky with our B’s. :p

    –lori

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  • Love the article! More, more, more of this kind!

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  • aaaawwww… so where you going for valentine’s?

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    Lori Reply:

    Hi Astrid!
    My Bin and I never go out on Valentine’s Day. We stay in and he cooks the main and I bake the dessert. :)

    –lori

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  • The only thing missing is a picture of “My Bin.” Picture, picture!!! :D

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  • This is so sweet, and so real, too. Beats all the permutations of “date a girl who travels/eats/blogs” :)

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  • All together now, ****aaaaaaaaaaaaawwwwwwwwwwwww***

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  • very nice blog…super like it
    may your tribe increase…
    Leslie is right…we need to see your romantic Bin…picture please :)

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  • You write about dessert all the time, Lori, but I have to say that this has got to be the sweetest entry on DCF. So genuinely written- with a lot of heart and so full of love. Happy Valentine’s Day to the both of you!

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  • long time reader, first time to comment. and all i will say is… awwwwwwwww… kinilig po ako <3

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  • Ive been a fan of your blog for many years – super duper like Your Bin’s story – a match made in “kitchen heaven”!

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  • Life lesson ladies….. Marry a man who adores you just as you are!!! :) Nice one, Bin! And damn Lucky Lori! :)

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  • excellent well written article Bin! you should have a regular column!

    hope your still getting to ride off them calories.

    -Jay

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  • Such a sweet post, Lori! It’s always nice to read about food bloggers’ personal lives once in a while. After reading someone’s blog for years, one does start to think one knows them, so reading something like this just strengthens that feeling. :-) (And yes, I do actually know you offline, but I’m speaking in general. ;-))

    This post by Bindoy is a really special Valentine’s and advanced birthday gift for you! The two of you are incredibly lucky to have each other. Despite what romantic movies would have us believe, perfect matches are NOT really all that common. So it’s wonderful to see two people so right for each other, and more so, that they know and appreciate it. :-)

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  • perfect match made in heaven ,envy much lori :), like michymichymoo said hope to find my own “my bin” soon..

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  • how sweet! lucky you Ms. Lor!

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  • Having met the both of you, I find this very endearing, especially because we witnessed how supportive he was of you. :)

    I especially agree with him when he said that you’re good with people and you listen. My bro and I were quite surprised about how genuine you were when we met you (it was in Ayala Westgrove during their Mango Festival back in 2011). We became bigger fans after that meeting. ;)

    I’m quite jealous that you found each other. Such a lovely partnership. Thank you for sharing this with us. :)

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  • …”Sharing food with Lori is a lot like our marriage: what’s hers is hers and what’s mine is still hers.”

    …but what’s leftover is all his!

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  • i’m crying right now. hay. kilig! :)

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